Seriously, does "Be Nice" = "Be Mean" on this site?
Sometimes I just have to shake my head at the lack of simple kindness shown on this site. What pushed me over the edge into posting was this question. Some poor soul wants to know if a technology is safe. That gets them 4 down votes and 2 close votes without any helpful advice whatsoever. What's worse is the close reasons are that the OP is seeking medical advice. This seems to be commonly used as a cover when one can't close for failure to show research. Maybe it's just me, but I don't know how this can be considered a request for medical advice. I've seen people comment on Giant Hogweed/Water Hemlock (here, and in a comment to an identification question here, and that is only the very very tip of the "medical" iceberg (which I notice probably because of my profession.) It seems a double standard to me.
How hard is it to be nice? This seems to translate easily to how you would like to be treated if you asked a question. Is it how you would like to be treated if you asked a question? (Judging the quality of the question is not an excuse.)
We are often accused of being an unfriendly site, because we can easily be perceived that way. Yes, we all have the same right to down vote and close vote, and I use both of those options liberally, so it's not really about that (or maybe I'm just justifying my voting pattern.)
There are active users who are very kind in their comments and explanations of DV and CVs. It wouldn't be hard to copy one or two of those comments and keep them handy to paste when appropriate.
It's possible that this is the culture that most of the community wants. I really don't know, because I took a fairly long hiatus and missed all the meta posts for years. Is the culture here unfriendly? Is it what most active users want? (As usual, DV my question if you disagree with me.)
It's ironic that I ask this question when I can be quite unkind. What might not be known is that I have a long history with this particular user from when I was a mod on what was then called Health (now Medical Sciences.SE.) Generally I'm not quite so unkind. I hope, anyway.
There was such a to do over the new CoC a while back which caught a well respected moderator in its tangled, sticky web that SE lost a lot of users, including me for a while. Clearly TPTB at SE weren't taking their own advice. Has this been let go of, i.e. are we no longer accountable to be kind?